Anger Management
Wisdom lies in controlling the fury
BEHAVIOUR BY FIAZ FAZILI
Have you ever lost your temper when things are not going your way? Did you yell and scream or want to hit someone? Maybe you lose your cool or hit the wall, while someone else may act more calmly. When you are angry, do you say or do things which normally you would not? Do you - after your anger has subsided - regret what you said or did, or how you appeared in front of people? If you answered most or all of the above questions with 'yes', then you are on your way and you will easily understand .Abu Hurairah (RA), reported that a man said to the Prophet (SAW), "advise me". The Prophet said, "do not become angry and furious.
"The man asked again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, "Do not become angry and furious." Everyone gets angry but many of us feel our anger is justified when we’re actually angry. But sometimes it makes us to say and do things that we don't really mean. Equally, we've all looked back and realized we may have overreacted. Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage.
Ask yourself how would the quality of your life improve if you used your anger in safe, acceptable ways. How to release that fury in safe ways, we are convinced that the Prophet’s guidance is the best. On the other hand, just letting your anger get the better of you can lead verbal aggression to physical abuse. Don't forget the other person is probably feeling angry with you too. Everyone, regardless of position, education must come to terms with his or her own human imperfections and physical mortality.
One of the best ways for a person to control his anger is by becoming more aware of possibility he or she may become irrational and say or do something which he later miht regret. Quite often, in this heated discussion, a person’s muscles start to become tense and with adrenaline rush the pulse increases rapidly. Blood pressure also rises sharply which can precipitate a health catastrophe .
The Prophet (SAW) has advised us that paying attention to these physical signs is very important, “Beware of anger, for it is a live coal on the heart of the son of Adam. Do you notice the swelling of the veins of his neck and the redness of his eyes.” Prophet has suggested, “when one of you becomes angry ,while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good, otherwise he should lie down.”.
The idea here is simple: the person must change the circumstances under which he first became angry. If his muscles have become tense, and he has started to become angry, while standing, then sitting down will require relaxation of the muscles while at the same time it will change the context of the discussion. Also, getting up and washing the face will help alleviating the anger.
Let's learn to control our anger. We will be better human beings
